January 25, 2011

I Kissed a Guy

The fall of the ban on gays in the military, also known as “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” is the most important event in Gay American History since Ellen came out as, gasp, an openly gay comedienne.

So what’s next on the Gay Agenda?

The official next cause de célèbre won’t be decided until the Big Gay Convention, scheduled for 2012 in Oslo, Norway. Kidding! It doesn't take a vote to imagine the next closet door opening up: pro sports.

Pro athletes still don’t ask and pro athletes still don’t tell, but it’s only a matter of time.
My prediction: by 2020, we’ll be watching, gasp, an openly gay pro athlete. Or two. Or more.

The cultural signposts are obvious: “guy on guy” is steadfastly becoming what “girl on girl” has become over the last 15 years: an acceptable source of eroticism in the media.

Macho actors play gay lovers on the big screen. Handsome male celebrities joke about doing other handsome male celebrities.

Two men kissing is an increasingly popular act on TV and in the movies. Pro athletes are coming out as gay-friendly.

Can the male equivilent of the hit song “I Kiss a Girl” be far behind?

Forty years ago, America was shocked when athletes started grooming themselves and hawking beauty products. Thirty years ago, America pushed back by saying, "Real men don’t eat quiche."

Twenty years ago, lesbians weren't part of our Basic Instincts. Ten years ago, men didn’t have bromances.

Now, the concept of the gay soldier is real.

I kissed a guy. Now, I can hardly wait for the first openly gay president.

January 23, 2011

Still at Large

Been single my entire life. No boyfriend. No girlfriend. No lover. No partner. No buddy.

I never said I didn't want pussy. What I do know is: I want a buddy.

To paraphrase the black dude in The Green Mile, "a buddy to go through life with, a buddy to talk about where we've just been, and where we're going next."

"A buddy who has your back," adds this solo flyer who's dreaming 2011 will be the year. What else am I gonna do? Believe there's no chance of it happening this year? Ever?

This much is true. This much I believe. This much I dream. There is some buddy out there.

January 22, 2011

Gun Show

Never dreamed I'd be an old man with biceps worthy of the gun show.

But then again, never dreamed I'd be an old man, period.

Life is full of miracles, especially when you believe anything is possible.

Never dreamed I'd be an old man who finally has a buddy.

Then again, anything is possible, true?

January 17, 2011

Birthday Man

Jim Carrey, Ben Franklin and me--three Americans born on January 17. In fact, Mr. Carey and I came into the world on the same day in 1962.

But only one of us has lived with HIV/AIDS for more than 25 years. Only one has shown courage and bravery in the face of a disease that once had a life expectancy of 12-18 months.

Happy birthday to the man that is me. I'm living a dream that I never imagined coming true: me, middle-aged, in great shape with a sharp mind. Me, comfortable with myself and in love with my life. Me, a funky, black, poz jock who is happy, whole and proud.

Happy birthday to me. And many more ....

January 14, 2011

This Time, Next Year

By this time next year, I'll have landed a studly mate

Twenty/eleven will be the date

I can feel it right here

We find each other

And my dream man will have a name

My life won't ever be the same

And he'll call all the time

And if he asks, I'll go ahead and lend him

The dime

January 8, 2011

2010: The Year in Funk

"It takes a special kind of strength to keep your hopes and dreams alive when the world fears you, avoids you and doesn't try to understand you or your virus."

January 7, 2011

2010: The Year in Funk

"I'm going to bed tonight dreaming of the right man for me ... He exists, and he's not gonna run away from me because I'm living with HIV/AIDS."

January 6, 2011

2010: The Year in Funk

"Young poz guys need to know they can still be sexy, sexual, happy, healthy and lovable without adding an asterisk to their identities."

January 5, 2011

2010: The Year in Funk

"Reveal your status with a confidence that says, I'm merely revealing something a little more intimate about myself, and I certainly hope, for your sake and mine, you're educated about HIV and safe sex."

January 4, 2011

2010: The Year in Funk

"Where in the world can one find images of HIV-positive people being happy? Almost nowhere. That's one of the reasons I blog."

January 3, 2011

2010: The Year in Funk

"I bet a lot of so-called straight men would shut the hell up after getting beaten in sports by some homos

from Here Come the Homos!

2010: The Year in Funk

"After acquiring the AIDS virus, I had to forgive myself for not knowing better, acting differently or being smarter."